Why I Don’t Want to Be the Best Version of Me, Fueling for Performance, and Husband Training 101

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Welcome to One Day Out, a weekly newsletter to help deepen your faith, enhance your health, and guide you in pursuing a purpose-filled life.

🙏 Opening Prayer:

Lord, help me stop striving to become a better version of myself—and instead become more like You. Keep me rooted in eternity, surrendered in spirit, and present with the people You've placed in my life. Amen.

👋 Note from me & today’s snapshot:

I don’t want this life to be the peak.

The deeper I go in my walk with Christ, the more I realize it’s not about self-optimization, but self-denial. Not about becoming the best version of me, but becoming more like Him.

From a convicting sermon on modern self-help culture to prepping for marriage and adjusting my training goals, this week has been full of reminders that less of me and more of Him really is the goal.

Today’s snapshot:

• 🙌 FAITH: Why I’m done trying to become the “best version” of me

• 🏃‍♂️ FITNESS: The shift from aesthetics to performance—and how it actually made me look and feel better

• 🍽️ NUTRITION: Why carbs are not the enemy (and how I stopped fearing them)

• 💬 RELATIONSHIPS: What toothpaste caps and marriage prep taught me about love

• 🧠 PERSONAL GROWTH: How a daily “Power Hour” can help you stop reacting and start building

🙌 FAITH

I came across a sermon by the late John MacArthur titled “Becoming a Better You.” It rocked me.

He exposed the false gospel of self-improvement that’s crept into much of modern Christianity—the “live your best life now” message. And man, it hit hard.

For a long time, I used to say things like “becoming the best version of myself.” It sounds good, right? But Ephesians 2:1 reminds us:

We weren’t just not our best. We were dead. And now, we’ve been made alive in Christ.

That changes everything.

So instead of trying to upgrade Dom 2.0, I want to put off my old self and put on Christ (Ephesians 4:22–24). I want to speak like Him, serve like Him, love like Him.

Food for thought: Where have I been focused on self-improvement instead of spiritual transformation?

🏃‍♂️ FITNESS

You can do it all…just not all at once.

We live in a world where people are training like pro athletes while juggling full-time jobs, families, and side hustles. No wonder we’re burnt out.

I recently set a goal to lose 10 pounds before my wedding—just to see if I could do a true, healthy cut. I dropped from 200 to 192… and that’s where I stopped.

Why? Because I realized my body felt best between 190–195. I was like cool..I’m good here.

Now, my goal has shifted from aesthetics to performance. I’m running 6x/week, lifting 3x/week—but still training under 90 minutes most days.

Here’s my strategy on the days I train twice:
I stack my workouts back-to-back in the morning—run first, right into a lift. The whole thing takes 60–90 minutes. I train lighter on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and take Sundays completely off.

That’s about 4% of my total week.

Not 40 hours a week. Not some impossible routine.

You have the time. What most people are missing is a strategy, structure, and a plan that actually fits their life.

👉 Want help with that? I have 3 coaching spots open this month. If you want to train smarter—not longer—and build a body that performs without burning out, book a call here.

Let’s build a plan that works with your life—not against it.

Prompt: What training goal would actually support the season I’m in right now?

🍽️ NUTRITION

Let’s redeem the reputation of a misunderstood superfood: carbs.

When I was cutting, I limited carbs—and felt it. My recovery dipped, energy dropped, and I couldn’t hit the intensity I needed in my workouts.

All in all, I just felt depleted.

Now that I’m back to performance-focused training, I’ve started upping my carb intake with ones that work for me like fruit, oats, sweet potatoes, honey, and some white rice—and I feel amazing.

The internet wants you to fear carbs. But if you’re training, moving, and living an active lifestyle? They’re your best friend.

Here’s the simple truth:

• Carbs = fuel.

• Fuel = performance.

• Performance = results.

Don’t run on empty.

Prompt: Am I fueling like someone who wants to perform—or someone who’s afraid to eat?

💬 RELATIONSHIPS

One of the most helpful (and humbling) lessons from our premarital counseling lately?

Unspoken expectations.

We all have them. They’re the little things we assume our partner should just know—but they don’t. And when they go unspoken, they almost always lead to frustration, disappointment, or conflict.

Here’s a small but real example:

My fiancée mentioned how much it bothers her when things are left out on the bathroom counter—like toothpaste with the cap off or moisturizer without the lid. For her, tidiness brings peace. For me? I never thought twice about it.

That was something I didn’t know, so when we start living together when we’re married, I know to do that.

So now, I screw the cap back on. I take the 3 seconds because it matters to her.

That’s how unspoken expectations become spoken, and spoken ones become opportunities to serve.

That’s how we train to be husbands, fellas.

Prompt: What’s one unspoken expectation I’ve been holding onto—or missing—in my closest relationship?

🧠 PERSONAL GROWTH

I’m experimenting with a new daily rhythm: The Power Hour.

A mentor of mine blocks out 60-minute chunks throughout the day to go heads-down on one focused task. No Slack. No texts. No distractions.

He plans the hour the night before. When it starts, he executes.

I’m now doing this right after my morning run, during my peak creative window. It’s already helping me script, edit, and plan way more effectively without wasting energy putting out fires.

Don’t have an hour? Start with 15 minutes. Watch what happens when you only do the thing that matters most.

Prompt: Where can I create space in my day for deep, focused, intentional work?

🙏 Closing Prayer

Lord, help me trade perfection for presence, performance for purpose, and striving for surrender. Thank You for being our source of strength, wisdom, and peace in every season. Keep us grounded in truth and bold in love. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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